“Seize the day!”
“Let go and let God!”
“Be the change you want to see.”
“Don’t judge a book by it’s cover.”
“Be all you can be!”
Yah Yah….Blah Blah Blah. We have been hearing these cliches and antiquated sayings since we were young. Don’t get me wrong. They sound good! As a matter of fact, they are good principles to live by, but if we are real with ourselves, they are easier said than done. In the midst of any trial or difficult circumstance, knowing what to and actually doing it are two very different things. When you are faced with constant disappointment and challenging circumstances, it is hard to “be all you can be.” When bombarded with negativity and pessimism from loved ones or even coworkers, it is daunting to think that you can actually “be the change you want to see.” When every day presents a new set of problems in addition to the ones from the day before, it’s not easy to “seize the day.”
So what do you do? How do you move forward when cute little colloquialisms aren’t enough?
Life always presents us with opportunities to learn more about ourselves or more about people. The problem with wanting a cute phrase to “fix” the different issues and situations that we face in life is that there is no quick fix to some of the difficulties that we encounter. Cute phrases and sayings don’t fix the problems, and they are not intended to. They are intended to change us if we live by them. Problems, in most cases, are easy to “fix”; people are not. Many times we want a situation to change not realizing that we are in a situation so that it can help us change. We want instant deliverance and comfort from pain and adverse situations without FIRST learning the lessons that life is trying to teach us.
At every juncture in your life that seems to be contrary to “dream” life or “dream” relationship that you envision in your head ask yourself, “What is that I am suppose to learn in this moment?” As uncomfortable as life can get, don’t rush the process or journey and neglect the chance to grow or change into a new and improved version of yourself. Never waste an opportunity for pain to teach you something. It is a good teacher and willing to teach you the lessons that you need to learn in order to go the next level successfully prepared. All you have to do is ask.